Thanks for that one, Dan!
But the guys I get involved with, date, fuck, etc. So I'm headed down a path to ending up a lonely, old gay man. I personally know gay couples with ten-, fifteen-, twenty-, and twenty-five-year age differences. So a longterm relationship between a year-old Daddy and a gay boy in his twenties isn't impossible. But by telling yourself it's impossible, DADDY, you've made it impossible—not for everyone, just for you.
The actor and author Stephen Fry is married to a man thirty years his junior; author Armistead Maupin is married to a man 27 years his junior. But first you have to let yourself believe it's possible. Please note: You can't spend the "final third" of your life with a guy in his twenties without that guy aging into his thirties and then his forties and then his fifties. Beautiful boys stop hearts, not clocks.
If there's no way you could ever be attracted to someone who isn't eternally 24—someone who isn't a gay vampire who sucks cock and never ages—then you should continue doing what you're doing: But you may find yourself capable of doing what so many other people in successful LTRs do: Okay, droop. Gay culture is not as youth-obsessed as the popular imagination would have us believe. I can only tell you why I did, and why I married my husband..
The issue with this question is that you will receive different answers from each couple. And each answer would be valid, especially to that couple. The second issue, at least for me, is the use of the terms "young" and "older. However, in similarity to a vehicle, that number will tell you next to nothing about how hard the vehicle was driven nor does it indicate over what kinds of roads. A vehicle which has only been driven down well paved roads, has had a conservative operator, had the oil changed frequently, and the service maintained on a regular basis, will structurally be a better vehicle than the one that is driven only on the unpaved parish roads here in Natchitoches, LA, as fast as it can be accelerated, having only abrupt stops, and the owner finds little use for regular maintenance.
I can assure you the number of miles that each vehicle will achieve before they are ready for the junkyard, will be vastly different. So, how does this analogy work to answer your question?
I see it like this: Why would I date, and eventually marry, an older man? I found he was a fountain of experience. His brain was in constant teaching mode, but he was always able to read his audience and present a learning experience in new ways that indicated he had a grasp on the world. He was consistently learning new things. He did not hesitate to share what he had learned. I, being less traveled and world wise, was relying on him to provide insight that I would not have. He loved my body when I had difficulty doing so.
He also made it understood that he loved much more about me than just my physical appearance. He often told me he loved me, and then showed me his love by making sure I had the best meals from our own kitchen. I could not have asked for a better individual with which to share my life. I was 59 and James A.
Metcalf, Ph. We would have celebrated our 3 wedding anniversary the past August 1st. We had been together as a couple for 25 years. Why do young gay men date older men? Probably for the same reason some young women date older straight men; they enjoy their companionship, their maturity have you ever met a conceited, vain, shallow, and conceited young man?
Because he's lived more than I have. Which means he's got stories. Ones that aren't just about how sloshed he got last weekend. Because he's comforting. I'm already a cocktail of fear and loathing and various neuroses, so don't feel the need to seek that out in my romantic life. It's refreshing to know someone who isn't trying to claw his way out of his own skin. Who takes me out of my head. Gives me hope for my 50s and beyond. Because he's vulnerable.
Flirting with, then asking a younger guy out on a date is no different than courting someone your own age. Our flirting mojo never dies. Still though, there are gay men out there who refuse to date guys younger than them. The reason why? They believe ridiculous myths about.
He's just the right calibration of confidence and insecurity. His self-acceptance was fought for, and hard-won. He's been to war and seen things. Makes me feel like I'm tending to a ragged veteran. Because texture. Young men are fragile and baby-smooth and blank like paper, and none of that is particularly intriguing to me. Because sweater vests. And corduroy trousers. And argyle, godammit.
Because there's a crinkle in the corners of his eyes when he smiles, a reminder that even happiness has a consequence. Because so often, attraction is found in difference.
Thank you for ur efforts in this writing. The fact that he is a stone cold stud, is a perk.. Login to your account below. I'm already a cocktail of fear and loathing and various neuroses, so don't feel the need to seek that out in my romantic life. I can assure you the number of miles that each vehicle will achieve before they are ready for the junkyard, will be vastly different.
We have a society that embraces people that are different and successful. Pun intended.